Love yourself. Forgive yourself

One of Florence + The Machine’s songs starts with some interesting lines. They’re about how you can only love and forgive someone by loving and forgiving yourself. What if you changed it?

I study my extreme experience with a person, and I understand more and more that if this relationship had happened, I would have put my desires and needs on the back burner. But is this what healthy relationships are based on? Should they start with concessions? Should they take into account the needs of each of us? Of course, in adulthood, each party has its own needs, but concessions should also be mutual. Compromising, comfortable. But from both sides. When we talk about concessions on one side, these are not concessions, but slavery. This is not love, but dependence. Fear of being “not suitable”. But where there is fear, there is no place for love, let’s be honest with each other.

We are all different, we are all traumatized. But this does not mean that we have a “social disability” that should limit our freedom and only ourselves.

Full quote from the video Florence + The Machine – Delilah (The Odyssey – Chapter 8):
“Love yourself. Forgive yourself. You can’t love and forgive other people, if you don’t, first of all, love and forgive yourself. You have to realize that people are fallible beings. They make mistakes. They have to be excused from these mistakes… So love yourself and then love other people. Please forgive yourself.”