Flat world

There are people with a flat world. There are a lot of them, actually. They are ideal workers. Because they have a direction that they have to cope with – and they are perfectly realized in it. They are ideal workers in the factory. They are ideal workers in the store. They are ideal mothers. They are ideal wives. This does not make them worse than anyone else. You just, in the same way, should not expect from a person what their inner world is not adapted for.

Likewise, from the opposite, I didn’t know many genuinely creative people who would be ideal mothers. That is, they, without any problems, provided for the child’s basic needs, but no more. Children of such people grow up very independent. Because otherwise there is no way. Again, this is not about their minus. It’s just about the structure of their inner world.

The stupidest thing you can do to anyone, be it the first or the second person, is to reshape them into someone else. Someone they are not.

I am a creative person. I am interested in creative people. I am not interested in monotonous, monotonous work, because I get tired of it quickly. That is why I am engaged in chimneys, and in the repair of transport/equipment, and in computer maintenance, at the same time I like the fragile images in the photos that I create. But this is me. Others do not have to be the way I am. Simply because they are different. And this must be accepted. That you choose “either-or”. In order not to be a monster in the life of another person.

Leave hope…

Fallout 2. No, not the second season of the series. It’s Fallout 2. There’s so much in this title for me. Today I caught myself thinking that the weather outside the window and the mood are such that they say “load…run…disappear from this gloomy universe into an even bleaker one. But so familiar…” – the taste of childhood is not “ice cream for 50 kopecks”. It’s when you went to the store with a sore throat to change discs, and one of the two turned out to be Fallout 2. You liked the “dude on the cover”. And you realized that this is exactly what…

I remember the snowy weather, and the fact that my sore throat didn’t get any better after the hike. But then I discovered a whole universe for myself. I spent half a day working on a quest to “open” doors, because I couldn’t even imagine that in a game you could not just “click” but set off a timer-activated explosive, throw it out of your backpack and… blow up that damn door. That was something incredible. This universe was incredible. Because games back then were about possibilities. About tones of text. About stories you lived with and with which you fell asleep and woke up.

Fallout 2 was the revelation for me about how games could be made and how limitless they could be in terms of possibilities. It wasn’t a game, it was a cinematic adventure. I can name a bunch of games from that time, like Phantasmagoria, that stood out from the AAA knockoffs like Assassins Creed that are coming out now. Because back then, games were about the idea, not the cover (pun intended, I know).

Looking for someone

You should first of all look for a friend. A person with whom you will have mutual support. But you should remember that not all people are capable of being friends. Not all people are capable of returning the warmth that you give. And not all are capable of appreciating each other, even in difficult times.

When asking yourself what you are looking for in another person, the first word is “warmth.” Because that is what we often lack. Warmth is not about everyday life. It is not about “who washes the dishes.” It is about an inner sense of peace. That is, for the most part, everyone is now looking for a “home” in another person, where they will feel comfortable. And only then everything else.

But not every home you enter gives you a sense of peace and comfort. So, technically, all single people are “tenants” of this world. Who are simply looking for a place where they will be comfortable. Despite everything that is happening outside the window…

September 1

Around September 1 or 2, you feel that autumn has come, when you go to school, university or technical school, it’s already a little cooler – and this is “the same sign” – in the same way, sometimes, you feel that you have become part of a relationship. Without loud statements. Without clear responsibilities. Without obvious limitations. But internally you felt – yes. This is it.

Adult life, like adult relationships, is when you are able to feel the tone of the conversation and change the topic, even when you have never met a person. You just feel that this is not the topic that is comfortable for your partner. Although you have neither eye contact nor hearing. You just see that it is “not comfortable”. And you change it to another. And a lot of things that you are used to in ordinary relationships. That is, the level of understanding. Other people’s comfort zones. Talking about all sorts of little things that everyone sees in their own way. This can be called “you haven’t seen each other yet – but you are already talking like a married couple”. And a meeting is just a signature on a conditional document that everything that was said before – will be true and will be so in the future.

In two weeks of online communication, I went through “all the stages” that are typical of classic relationships. Difficult moments, misunderstandings – all of that. It was there. But there was also a person who listened. And this once again shows that you can talk about anything with someone who wants to hear you. And this automatically means that everyone who was “before” didn’t want to hear you. This is the answer to the question, “what was wrong with me at one time or another?”. There’s nothing wrong with you – it was wrong with the person you came across.

I never finished writing the article about dating apps, but now it would have turned out in a direction that a couple of weeks ago I would have considered fantastic. With one caveat. This was the first experience of the platforms for both of us.

Let’s move on, the journey is interesting and incredible…