Rat race
Sometimes the interaction of two people resembles a race. As in sports or dance, there is one who leads and one who allows himself to be led. That is, two diverse forces. Let’s turn to physics. If two forces move at different speeds, but one of the forces makes a jump, does this mean that they will align and continue their journey side by side? I will answer right away – no.
The thing is that the impulse we give to an object is not a fixed unit. There was once a girl I liked. But the problem (from my point of view) was that I didn’t have money for flowers and stuff. You could have asked her if she needed them, but you learn from how the universe works, from other people’s experiences, because it’s shown in movies or described in books. So you make these flowers an important part of the relationship. Reasoning has led to the fact that it’s not a problem to go to work and earn money. The problem is that there are certain elements that, from the starting position, on your part, require action from you. Reasoning moves into the plane of “but if a person doesn’t need you without these actions, then a person doesn’t need you, but what these actions will give them.”
In general, it resembles buying a phone. When you look at a model in a store for $500, and a model $30 more expensive is better, and $50 more expensive is even better. And now you no longer think about the one that cost $500, but you admire the one that is a “dream model”, but costs $580. And you buy it. Translating this into a more understandable plane – by increasing your speed, or value, you, at the same time, reduce the speed/value of another object that you are trying to catch up with. That is, it, in your understanding, depreciates.
Basically, being in different conditions, the two forces cannot coexist side by side. Either the first will constantly pull the second forward, or the second will stop the first from moving forward.
This takes me back to 2007. You can love endlessly and dissolve in a person, finding in them a whole universe, and dividing the world in which you live into two halves. Equal for each. But as in yesterday’s story about different planes, here it is the same – your universes coexist only in one plane – of thoughts and communication. An attempt to go beyond the boundaries of communication ends fatally, because you understand the difference of these very worlds. It’s about some things that you cannot agree with, because they were not built into your “firmware”.
As in any other case, I ask myself the question – could it be otherwise? Is there some neutral side? A neutral territory where two energies can coexist? It reminds me, for some reason, of the life of a conditional stewardess and a plumber. When the first knows that she can return home. That there is a fixed term “home”. Where it is cozy. Where she is always expected. Where there is food, there are freshly cut flowers on the table. Because Mario grows them in the winter garden. The second knows that he needs to maintain this very comfort. It is not for nothing that Mario is given as an example here – he has to watch “the castle for the princess”.
In 2007, we were both 17. And you had one perception. Now…at 17 you look for reasons, at 36 you look for ways. You don’t want to believe that the world is flat and any situation has only 1 solution. The question is whether this solution is necessary only for you.



