The reality of dating in Ukraine 2.0

I continue to study the specifics of building relationships at the age of 30+. I am increasingly inclined to believe that it is easier for two men to build a relationship with each other than to build a classic heterosexual relationship. Why?

Well…first of all, a man will not indicate in the questionnaire “military personnel are requested not to write”. Because he is with another, the same, man, “in the same boat”. In general, it sounds quite wild and rude. As if you come to the store to buy tomatoes, and not looking for a soul mate. How do you know what kind of person she is – your ideal person and what she does for a living?..

Secondly, I won’t say about this platform, but on the girls next door, sometimes they have such requests (you have to earn money, be sexy, be attentive, both this and that, and everything). Should you not drink, not smoke, not… cheat? Google, ok. Approximately 75-80% of profiles in applications are girls who smoke. And 3 out of 4 of my relationships ended in betrayal (well, yes, well, yes, I left… (with) Colin Farrell). A man will light a cigarette for the company (just kidding, I don’t smoke, for example), and will have a drink. 100% coincidence of interests!

Thirdly, sometimes I get the feeling that I have more of that romanticism (interesting conversations, similar interests, chats about art, reciting favorite poems) than women, most of whom have all the romanticism in photos with hundreds of roses in their hands. Is this a hint that is expected of you? I am not against flowers, but it is already, somehow, played out. For a man (we are talking about a normal man now), a girl (woman?) is, first of all, support. A man (I repeat, normal!) will do everything to make his loved one comfortable. Woman…sometimes it is strange to watch how they try to seduce you. With photos, phrases. I am not interested in this “hint of sex” of yours, I would like something more heartfelt. And no, not all men need the same thing. But women use the same algorithm in relation to all men.

Fourth – perhaps, the demand for women is so much greater than for men that they “don’t see requests from free accounts” (some even write that “I don’t see likes, write” – it looks very romantic in third-party applications, where you just can’t write without paying). In any case, when one response comes out of 50-70 requests. Is that… strange? And you see that people are looking at the profile, and you mark people with similar interests. But, again, if we transfer all this to the plane of men (imagine that there are only men left in the world and all of them are at least bisexual) – then out of the 50 men on the planet, each would send requests to 200 men. How? God knows. But there is an opinion that men put “hearts” more often than women. Several times. Is this about “selectivity”? Maybe. But now there are not so many normal men in Ukraine (not those who left, not those hiding from the CCC, God forgive me, military men who got on this list because they don’t need these, your, “extras”), and even then the situation does not change.

I don’t draw this conclusion about myself. I see men here. I read their comments. I don’t know what kind of people they are, what kind of relationships they have, but every second person can tell their stories about how they failed to meet someone. And they don’t look like bad people or homeless people (although they are often not bad people either, sometimes the situation turns out that way). But…but?..